To the Reader:

Someone you know or love has been murdered.  The information in this book is intended to give you an idea of what to expect after the homicide of a family member or friend.  It may take all the courage you have to pick up this book and read it.  You did not ask for this tragic event to take place in your life.  You may be saying to yourself, " I don't want to read anything that will remind me of this tragic event."

This book was written to help you understand some of what you are going through and guide you through the homicide investigation.   It is not intended to tell you how to feel or to tell you what to do.  It is offered to give you some information that may help your understanding of some of the critical issues you will be facing.  We have laid out the information in this book in an approximate chronological sequence: the first few days followed by the first few weeks, then the early months, and the first year.

Death by homicide has more elements attached to it than any other type of unnatural death.  The subject matter in this book comes from direct experience and observation.  We are sorry that this tragedy has occurred in your life.  We hope that this book will be informational and helpful as you travel through the maze of both your bereavement journey and the criminal justice system.   To give you a greater understanding of what you may experience, we have included throughout this book the personal experience of co-author Lew Cox following the 1987 murder of his daughter, Carmon.  So, at various points throughout the book, we have placed Lew's story in italics.

Coping with Traumatic Death:

A booklet to help you in your time of need

By Bob Baugher, PH.D &
 Lew Cox, Victim Advocate

If you have experienced the death of a loved one from homicide, this book is for you. Lew Cox takes you through he first few days, weeks, months, and years as he coped with the murder of his daughter, Carmon.

Additional Books by Dr. Robert Baugher

  • A Guide for the Bereaved Survivor
  • A Guide to Understanding Guilt during Bereavement
  • Understanding Anger during Bereavement
  • Death Turns Allie's Family Upside Down
  • After Suicide Loss: Coping with Your Grief